Monday, August 21, 2017

One Stop Solution to Perceived Love Jehad, Conversions, etc - Marriage under Special Marriage Act

This time around my blog is about socially important information. The media is full of expressions like Love Jehad, Conversions on the name of Marriage, etc. I am not here to either support or deny those arguments. It is for experts with data to battle it out, either way.

Reading the above statement, my readers would think, what am I up to?

As you read this blog, things will be more clear to you. Read on.

Preamble


When a boy and a Girl fall in love and decide to marry (or decide to marry for any other reason), if they follow the same religion, there is hardly any issue. If both of them are from different religions but they have a good understanding and are not fettered by individual religions, again life would be smooth.

The problem comes when both belong to different religions and one of them insists to marry under a particular Rite, say Hindu, Muslim, or Christian. If a marriage is to be solemnized under the Rite of a particular religion, it is a must for both Bride and groom to be followers of that religion. In the case of Hindu marriage, many Priests overlook this requirement but that is not true for other religions.

The Problem (aka Love Jihad at el)


When a girl or a boy converts to another religion for the sake of marriage, she or he faces many uncertainties. Each religion has its personal laws, either codified or by practice. The converted person, therefore, is subjected to those personal laws that he/she has no clue about. Take the method of divorce in Islam (and I am not discussing its merits/demerits or legality) which is very different. In Roman Catholic Christians, Divorce is nearly impossible and only Church can grant it. The law of Succession also is different in each religion.

The biggest question that these persons, getting under pressure to convert for the sake of marriage, should seek an answer to is if the love of a boy and a girl belonging to a different religion is true land deep, where is any need to convert to another's religion?

However, doubt may arise, if one person does not convert to another person's religion and under what Rites they can marry.

The Answer


Here is the answer for those who want to marry for Pure love for each other and not with any other motive, marrying under Special  Marriage Act 1954, this is the one-stop solution to this issue


This act is religion-neutral. A girl and a boy belonging to any religion can marry under this act without any reference to the religion AND without any need to convert.  It is a well-drafted legislation that primarily caters to marriages that cannot otherwise be solemnized under any religious rite. That does not mean the bride and groom who belong to the same religion cannot marry under this act. Marriage of a boy and a girl with any combination of Religion, Cast, Creed, etc. can marry under this act. If I let the readers know its colloquial name, they would find it very familiar, it is conventionally known as registered or Court Marriage.

What are the benefits?

Here are some of the benefits –

     Pure love stands out without two religions vying for supremacy. Your religion to you, mine to me.

      Secondly, all the rights of individuals are clearly laid down, protected by the statute, and cannot be infringed upon by any of the marrying party's religious laws.

      This Act grants the bride and the groom uniform secular rights and there is enforceability of these rights by Courts which may not happen under other personal Laws.

Is Demanding Conversion of a Would-be Partner really true love?


Without espousing any further on this Law (this job is better done by a lawyer,  I am an Engineer and hence can only profess this much) I can only say, if one is marrying another person belonging to different religion and if that person demands that one converts to this person's religion, one needs to look at the whole affair again. What is the need to do that when another person is expected to accept you on an "As is where is" basis? If their love is pure how does religion comes in?

In Conclusion

If conversion becomes a pre-condition for marriage that may not be worth it (my personal opinion). If a boy or a girl takes a hasty decision to convert, be mindful that the individual converting would be trapped into personal laws that he/she was not subjected to earlier and about which he/she has no knowledge.


Why would anyone have any objection to marrying his or her love, keeping their religion to where they belong, to each individual, under Special Marriage Act 1954, which is a one-stop solution to marrying your love, of life keeping the marriage and married life straight, secular, and simple?

The issue is, many young boys and girls are not even aware of the fact that such an option exists.

Here is the link to Special Marriage Act 1954 - http://lawmin.nic.in/ld/P-ACT/1954/A1954-43.pdf .

Do read the act and advise others where needed least they get trapped into something they had no idea about.

Friday, August 18, 2017

"Ahimsa Paramo Dharmah" - How to Quote Out of Context and Harm a Nation for Centuries.



The majority community in this Nation is peace loving one. It is so much peace loving that despite numerous attacks they never reacted collectively and rarely repulsed or fought with full force with the attacker. Instead, it just assimilated the attackers within it self. One way it is a great trait but it may also signify that since they did not or could not fight in a united manner,  they just assimilated attackers as a fait accompli.

But then the question that comes to the fore is, it may be good to live peacefully and assimilate the newcomers but why were the attacks not repulsed with full force in the first place? It is hard to believe that with so much of population the counter attacks or the opposition to external attackers (and no religiosity was really involved in external attacks. All attackers actually came for consolidating their power and to destroy known prosperity and loot the wealth of India, religion was merely a fig-leaf to justify their attack) was not what it should have been.

While I am propagating this thought, I am mindful that we had Prithviraj Chouhan, Maharana Pratap, Hemu, etc but most of their resistance crumbled some or the other time (like in the case Prithviraj Chouhan, may be on the 18th time after defeating the attacker 17 times).

Let me get down to the main argument of mine. First damage to majority psyche came from so called
जाति प्रथा (Caste system). According to the Caste system, only the people belonging to warrior clan were entitled to bear arms, protect society from all kind of aggression and were solely responsible for putting up resistance whatsoever.

The balance 3/4 of the people (3 castes out of 4 by Varna division) consisting of Priests, traders and workmen communities were told to concentrate on their profession. This 75 % population was de-franchised from arms and warfare. They never picked up arms, not even as citizen soldiers to join the warfare when the need for all to take up arms and stand up arose.

In a nation fed on basic teaching of Srimad Bhagwat Gita of कर्मण्ये वाधिकारस्ते फलेषु कदाचना कर्मफलेह्तुर भुरमा ते संगोस्त्वकर्मानी॥  , ४७ (meaning - You have the right to work only but never to its fruits. Let not the fruits of action be your motive, nor let your attachment be to inaction), the 75 %  population were fed that your karma is practicing your profession, protecting yourself and your nation is not within your Karma. You just do your duty as Priest, Trader or Craftsman. It is for Warrior clan to fight because it is their Karma not yours. 

In turn loot, killing, humiliation and all other attended things became part of nation's Karma, because the nation was let down by 75 % of its population under a misplaced notion that bearing arms is not theirs but someone else's duty (karma). All this was happening when the basic teaching of Srimad Bhagvat gita had ordered that do not fear death as death is merely a change of body by your soul because the Atma (soul) can not be created nor can it be destroyed - नैनं छिन्दन्ति शस्त्राणि नैनं दहति पावकः चैनं क्लेदयन्त्यापो शोषयति मारुतः .२३ (The soul can never be cut into pieces by any weapon, nor can he be burned by fire, nor moistened by water, nor withered by the wind).

The 75 % of the Indian population (by caste division not by absolute numbers) believed that taking up arm is not their Karma. Even bigger damage to the Indian psyche was done not so much so by Varna system but by numerous well-respected teachers and preacher of various sects who very confidently preached, to the masses, quoting out of context, what was prescribed only for the holy men (including the preachers), “Ahimsa Paramo Dharmah. This injunction was never meant for the common man but the common man was feed that this is your “Param Dharma” (the most sacred duty) overlooking the basic teaching of Srimad Bhagwat Geeta.

Here is the proof of my statement (least I am called Preposterous)  The full text of this shloka from Adi Parva is as under

अहिंसा परमॊ धर्मः सर्वप्राणभृतां समृतः
तस्मात पराणभृतः सर्वान हिंस्याथ बराह्मणः कव चित
Meaning - Verily the highest virtue of man is sparing the life of others. Therefore a Brahmana should never take the life of any creature.

As seen from above, if the full text was used, it was very evident that this diktat was meant for only Brahmanas (Which may not be the full truth anyway). That would mean, at least in the context of  Shloka mentioned above, which was and is often half quoted or quoted out of context, the other three Varnas, namely Warriors, Traders and Artisans, that is three out of four Varnik divisions (and not Warriors alone) were free to bear arms to protect themselves and their nation, if only they were fed correct information, there would have been lot many additional warriors to fight the invaders.

Let me now examine if it was an injunction for all Brahmanas (is it appears to be, by verbal translation). Was it true for even Priest class? In Kurukshetra War both Dronachrya and krupacharya, brahmans and married, fought on the side of Kauravas and so was Ashwathma, Dronachrya's  son. In recent times, there were Brahmin Chieftains including 
The Peshwas in the Maratha Kingdom right from Shivaji's days who fought for Maratha Kingdom and spread the Maratha Kingdom far and wide.

Thus It actually applied to Sanyasis (and not to all Brahmans) who have to leave all the worldly things and be kind to all the living being. But if it was an injunction for all Sanyasis, how come Lord Parshuram picked up Arms despite being a sanyasi (under exceptional circumstances). The famous novel Anand Math by Bankam Chandra Chatterjee, which had the patriotic song “Vande – Matram” in it. has a central theme of Sanyasis taking up Arms to fight against a repressive regime. If taking up arms were forbidden for Sanyasis at all times, these examples would not have been there.

As can be seen, there was no absolute compulsion of "Ahimsa Param Dharma" on even Sanyasis, therefore, the Brahmans including Sanyasis were also free to pick up arms when needed. It must be mentioned that in the normal course, it was not expected for brahmans to be armed with anything more than knowledge but remember, that was valid only for normal times, not during exceptions when they could bear arms and use them.

And if bearing arms and using them for just cause was forbidden, why would lord Kirshna tell Arjuna in Kurukhstra war to treat the Mahabharat war as a war for just cause and against injustice hence fighting this war is his dharma, to be performed without attachment (as espoused in various chapters of Srimad Bhagwat Gita), despite knowing fully well that this war was to cause doom in Bharatvarsha. 

I hope I have been able to conclude that there is no religious or Varna restriction on bearing arms on any one belonging to any caste or sub-division in India. Particularly when the need to protect what is sacred to the nation, protecting self, family and society against any aggression, internal or external. Alas, if only this was clearly brought out in our society many centuries ago, our history would have been very different.

When it was the question of the survival of the Nation, Village, Communities or neighbours and own family, picking up Arms and fighting for the Just Cause was a duty for every Indian. It is so even today.

Alas, The population of this nation was quoted an important teaching only partially, out of context by some teachers and leaders who possibly themselves did not go deep in the meaning of the full sholaka (given below) or out of some vested interest-

अहिंसा परमॊ धर्मः सर्वप्राणभृतां समृतः
तस्मात पराणभृतः सर्वान हिंस्याथ बराह्मणः कव चित

And the worst is, this misquoting was done for many centuries by some teachers of various sects of those times,  thereby damaging Indian Psyche which paved way for many centuries of attacks by invaders and subjugation of the nation. The people of this nation did not pick up arms even when their families and their own survival was at stake, when their houses were being burnt and women being dishonoured. Why? Only because people thought that they are following the great (conveniently told only partially)dharma - अहिंसा परमॊ धर्मः. What a shame.

I don't claim to know more than great teachers. In fact, I know very little compared to them. I am only trying to tell India and Indians, when it comes to आत्मरक्षा,परीवार  रक्षा or राष्टरक्षा, taking shelter behind Ahimsa is cowardice. All should come out and defend themselves, their families, their neighbours and their nation. For other times, Ahimsa can be followed. 

Time to put things in correct perspective. Even Rigveda commended in verse 1:39-2 “May your weapons be strong to drive away the attackers, may your arms be powerful enough to check the foes, let your army be glorious, not the evil-doer.”

Let us not pretend to be Ahimsak in the face of aggression to hide our weakness but rather do your Karma (duty), of Self Defence and defence of our Kith and Kin. Let the boggy of Ahimsa perpetuated as the "only truth" be forgotten and removed from our collective psyche.

Ahimsa towards those who are weak, defenceless and vulnerable is our duty even without being holy men or Sanyasis, but in all other circumstances, when danger to our life, life of our kith and kins and well being of our nation, “Ahimsa Paramo Dharmah” does not apply to anyone including Sanyasis. for picking up arms in the righteous cause of self-defence.

There never was a religious injunction on the common man irrespective of his Varna, Caste or sub-section but the whole nation was fed wrong information thereby damaging our Psyche and thereby allowing the nation to be subjugated and suffered. If only everyone had fought against invaders, things would have been very different


PS – 1. While many texts on the internet show these two phrases as a full Shlok, “Ahimsa Paramo Dharma, Dharma Himsa Tathavia Cha” I have not found any citation for it. 

2.    Also read : http://patriotsforum.org/अहिंसा-परमो-धर्मा-damage-caused-by-preachings-of-hindu-swamis/

3.    Response of a reader in : http://sellingthesecondamendment.com/hinduism-and-self-defense/